Narcissistic Personality Disorder (defined in 2006)

Notes

• (YouTube) How to Deal with Narcissists. Posted 4/23/2014. Vanessa Van Edwards is the author of, "Human Lie Detection and Body Language 101." Narcissists are usually hiding some kind of shame or vulnerability. Have deep sense insecurity and are desperately afraid we are going to find out about it. Also watch: (YouTube) 5 Habits of Exceptionally Charismatic People.
• (YouTube) Narcissist Symptoms. Posted 5/7/2013. (monikahohyt.com) Several criteria to define a narcissist: (1) Grandiose sense of self-importance and entitlement, (2) Fantasies of unlimited success, (3) The need to associate with people of high status, (4) Cravings for admiration and attention, (5) Arrogance, (6) Lack of (true) empathy.
• Narcissist. Needs your fear, pain, and attention. He has a false image of self.
• (YouTube) How to Defend Yourself from Narcissists. Observe Don't Absorb Technique. Stop the Manipulation!. Posted 1/6/2014. Don't allow yourself to enter their world, where they are in control. You will lose your perspective of self care. In a word: Observe but do not be Absorbed into their world!

Clinical Definition of a Narcissist

1. Reacting to criticism with anger, shame, or humiliation,
2. Taking advantage of others to reach own goals,
3. Exaggerating their own importance, achievements, and talents,
4. Imagining unrealistic fantasies of success, beauty, power, intelligence, or romance.

Varieties of Narcissism

1. Grandiose,
2. Anti-social,
3. Amorous (like a seductive Don Juan),
4. Compensatory,
5. Elitist,
6. Fanatic,
7. Paranoid.

Questions to Identify a Narcissist

1. Does the person act as if life revolves around them?
2. Do I have to compliment them to get their attention or approval?
3. Do they constantly steer the conversation back to themselves?
4. Do they downplay my feelings or interests?
5. If I disagree, do they get angry, cold or withholding?
6. Requiring constant attention and positive reinforcement from others,
7. Becoming jealous easily,
8. Lacking empathy and disregarding the feelings of others,
9. Being obsessed with self, Pursuing mainly selfish goals,
10. Trouble keeping healthy relationships,
11. Becoming easily hurt and rejected,
12. Setting goals that are unrealistic,
13. Wanting "the best" of everything,
14. Appearing unemotional.

Three Major Causes

1. Excessive admiration that is never balanced with realistic feedback,
2. Overindulgence and overvaluation by parents, other family members, or peers,
3. It can also be caused by a childhood marked by shame and/or emotional abuse.