Narcissistic Personality Disorder (defined in 2006)
Clinical Definition of a Narcissist
- Reacting to criticism with anger, shame, or humiliation,
- Taking advantage of others to reach own goals,
- Exaggerating their own importance, achievements, and talents,
- Imagining unrealistic fantasies of success, beauty, power, intelligence, or romance.
Varieties of Narcissism
- Amorous (like a seductive Don Juan),
Questions to Identify a Narcissist
- Does the person act as if life revolves around them?
- Do I have to compliment them to get their attention or approval?
- Do they constantly steer the conversation back to themselves?
- Do they downplay my feelings or interests?
- If I disagree, do they get angry, cold or withholding?
- Requiring constant attention and positive reinforcement from others,
- Becoming jealous easily,
- Lacking empathy and disregarding the feelings of others,
- Being obsessed with self, Pursuing mainly selfish goals,
- Trouble keeping healthy relationships,
- Becoming easily hurt and rejected,
- Setting goals that are unrealistic,
- Wanting "the best" of everything,
- Appearing unemotional.
Three Major Causes
- Excessive admiration that is never balanced with realistic feedback,
- Overindulgence and overvaluation by parents, other family members, or peers,
- It can also be caused by a childhood marked by shame and/or emotional abuse.